Wow. I don’t even know where to start. So many fantastic and wonderful things have been happening!
I am now 19 weeks pregnant…
Quite the belly, eh? =)
This week I started being able to feel the baby move. It is so amazing to be at a point where I’m getting constant reassurance that everything’s still alright down there. Besides a few near-fainting episodes at the hospital I’m interning at, I have been feeling great.
We have been exploring cloth diapering options, and feeling more than a little overwhelmed. It seems everyone has different preferences; my head is spinning with the choices: all-in-ones, hybrids, all-in-twos, pocket diapers, covers, inserts, and on and on. I am such a planner, it makes me crazy that I might have to buy a bunch and “wait-and-see” what works!
We just came back from our big vacation (for Michelle’s 40th) to Puerto Rico! We had many adventures and misadventures… We had an awful seven hour layover on the way there, Michelle’s suitcase got lost (for only a day, luckily), everything was closed for Father’s Day, and we were there during torrential downpours, but we saw some amazing historical spots and architecture, the rainforest, and had one beautiful (and hot!) day at the beach. And I got to try stand-up paddleboarding (I have been waiting years for that)!
Everything has been really great, albeit super busy. In an attempt to get the majority of my classes out of the way before baby arrives, this term and next I have full time internships (40 hrs a week) and 2-3 classes. It makes the time fly by though!
We find out the sex of our baby in one week! We had been considering having a private ultrasound done so that we could find out sooner, but the sonographer (a parent of a past student) convinced me to wait. She said, “Would you open your Christmas presents three weeks early?” No, I would never do that! So we’ve toughed it out. We planned a BBQ where we will find out with our friends and family, but I will post details and pictures of that next week!
I have finally started the process to have my name changed. When we signed our domestic partnership papers four years ago, I had the option to have my name changed, but it would have been for Oregon only. I still would have needed to go through the court process to have it changed federally, and at the time that wasn’t practical. I have always felt strongly, though, that sharing a last name is one way to help us be recognized as a family. I had to file paperwork, pay a fairly large fee, post a notice in the courthouse for a two week waiting period, and I will appear in court tomorrow for the judge to sign off on the change. Then I believe there is another two week waiting period before it’s official. And then of course, the change of names on every card, loan, title, deed, et cetera! Quite the process you have to go through when you can’t be legally married.
Finally, I’d like to say a bit about the Supreme Court decisions this week. Obviously, this week was a momentous step in this movement towards marriage equality, but I feel like the media is leaving out some major details. Not all of DOMA was struck down. So, that means that only the couples living in states with legal gay marriage will now receive federal benefits. Thirteen states only. We and many others like us are still waiting. This week is cause for serious celebration, but I don’t want people to forget that there are still battles to be fought. Our state will be voting on gay marriage again next November, and it would be a tragedy for people to not realize how much their participation is needed.